Women face more biological issues which are usually genetically based when going through their midlife transition. Women are born with more fat cells than males; they have slower metabolic rates, and they are influenced by different hormones. Women are more likely to gain weight throughout their life cycle than men.
Although all body systems change with age most women worry more about their weight and appearance of their skin. Skin changes can be the worst because they are the most visible and the target of advertising. Defy your age, lie about your age, aging is bad and wrinkles make it worse.
Women must make a self assessment before they can age successfully. Do they accept the message that aging is bad or permit themselves to feel self-worth in spite of all the changes that take place physically with their bodies?
I decided to take some time for me to figure out what to do next. I was having a week in which everything was getting to me. No matter how many times I tried to ignore that issue, emotions, feelings, thoughts and some very real concerns kept pushing their way through. Even when you get in touch with yourself your problem issues don't go away.
I knew it was bad when I missed my Monday therapy session. Tuesday after work I decided to pack a bag and just drive and take the rest of the week off. Where I was going to drive was anyone's guess. I had no real plan which was very odd for my role as a perfectionist. All I knew was I needed to drive. When I got tired I would stop and that would be the place I would try and connect deeply with my heart and reach the core of who I am and what I was going to do.
As my days were filled with the beautiful desert sand, I began to welcome all junky, ugly feelings I had toward myself. Feelings of being trash and allowing people to do what they had wished with me but without my permission and then throwing me away. I welcomed and challenged my thoughts and images of thinking and feeling I was ugly and fat. I think I wrote this before but if you look deep into your heart and truly listen to what it is telling you, you will come to realize that your heart won't lie to you.
I believe that to be true. I looked deep into my heart and felt the core of me. Now I know I am not fat or ugly. I am not trash and people cannot take from me what I don't allow them to take.
I cried while holding myself and told myself that I was a kind and giving person, that I have compassion for others, and that I can give that same compassion to myself. I am capable of loving me for who I am with all my faults and imperfections just like I can and dodo with others.
Sydne's story continues.
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